You’re stealing my childhood!

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“You Can’t Sell Grandma Dudie’s Cookie Jar!  I hate your new blog!  You’re stealing my childhood!”

I thought getting rid of my stuff would be difficult.  I didn’t know it would be next to impossible. Both of my daughters are having a really, really hard time with this and it’s not going exactly as planned. I mean, how hard should it be? Take junk from the basement, take a picture, talk about it and get rid of it.  Easy.  It’s not turning out to be so.

The stuff I’m trying to get rid of is not actually leaving the house, it’s just transferring rooms – like a hotel that is making room for more important guests by transferring current residents to the broom closet.  So far, Allison and Christian have both imprinted on my old baseballs, three of the kids want some of the duck calls (I’m sure Wesley would also, but he’s in Salt Lake City) and Molly has put the stupid Rhino cookie jar in the witness protection program and has all but dared me to find it.  To be completely honest, it hasn’t been that hard.

“How did you know it was in my bed? ”

“The big lump kind of gave it away, honey.”

It keeps moving from one lumpy hiding place to another and she has all but threatened to start selling my stuff if I kept trying to find it.  When I explained that that was kind of the whole idea behind this process, Molly said, “Well, what about your baseball cards or grandpa’s fly fishing stuff?  Maybe  I’ll just get rid of that stuff!”

“Honey, those things are nothing like the cookie jar,” I said.  “Those things have value.  The cookie jar is butt-ugly, worthless and there is nothing redeeming about it.”

“It was grandma’s and that’s what’s redeeming about it.”

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And therein lies the rub.  That one sentence summarized my entire existence and the reason that I’ve been an avid keeper of such things my whole life.  Each little thing that I keep has some special meaning to me, just like that cookie jar has for my daughter.  Every item, in every box of junk stored downstairs in the dark, has a thread attached to it that leads through my brain to a long ago time and place and an almost forgotten memory.  Holding that thing, or smelling that smell (Play-Doh brings me back to Mrs. Thompson’s 2nd grade class) means that I haven’t forgotten that event.  And since I don’t keep things that bring to mind dark times, like the broken tooth from my first fight, all of the strings lead to good things, happy memories and happy times.  That is why my daughter can’t get rid of the Rhino and why I struggle to get rid of my stuff.

To my daughter, that cookie jar is the thread that leads to her grandma.  I have no idea where my mom actually got the cookie jar, but it is not from my childhood (which consisted of decorations that glorified the Alaskan existence).  African animals were for picture books, not for counters.   It was probably a white elephant gift or bought at a thrift store, but this one, ugly, tacky Rhino has been a constant presence in my parent’s house from the time my kids were born.  

We visited my parent’s home on Camano Island two or three times a year and even before the hugs were over  and the cartoon network was turned on (we never had cable), the kids were into the “magic” cookie jar – which was always full no matter how many hands had been in it.  

The sound of that lid being lifted and set back down is etched into my memory.  I couldn’t reproduce that sound if you asked me, but I would be able to pick it out from hundreds of other lids being lifted and replaced on hundreds of other cookie jars.  That sound is a thread and that thread is what keeps me, I mean her, from being able to get rid of this really ugly thing.

Now that I think about it, there probably isn’t any single thing from my parent’s house that represents that time as well as that stupid cookie jar and it doesn’t just have a single thread, it has hundreds. It has webs and webs of threads that lead to things like boat rides and clam digging and shark catching, swimming in the pool, driving the golf cart, picking raspberries and watching Sponge Bob for twelve straight hours to get to the “new episode.”  It was a constant, and aside from the TV, probably the single most focused upon fixture in their house.

That Rhino represents all that was good at my parent’s house .  As the years went by my Mom became more and more forgetful and the cookies weren’t quite as fresh, and more often than not, trying to get only one cookie out of the jar became a challenge as they had congealed  into a single mass of stale and sticky goodness, but until Mom was gone that cookie jar was never empty.

When my Dad died the Rhino was almost sold at his estate sale.  Kelly didn’t want it and since the magic was gone and it was finally empty, I didn’t want it either.   It was gone at the end of the day without a second thought. We didn’t realize until we got home and started to unload the Suburban that we had adopted the stupid Rhino.  Molly has always had a little of the bandit in her and at the last minute had stashed it underneath the really important things that I wanted from my parent’s place, like the shotgun cleaner and totem poles.  Not until we were home, did we realize we had inherited it and it has sat on a storage shelf in a dark room ever since… Until I tried to get rid of it.  Then, for reasons that I am just now beginning to understand,  it magically turned into Grandma Dudie.

Molly is looking at me right now, clinging tightly to the Rhino with a defiant look in her eyes.  She has been reading this post and is now lifting the lid and putting it back  (clink) and saying “boat ride”  (clink) “golfing with your dad” (clink) “crab fishing” (clink).  Okay, okay.  I get it.  We can keep that one thing for a little longer.  In a way, maybe I’m just a bit glad we still have it.

Post script:  I have decided to make two different kinds of posts.  Posts of things that my kids want to keep and posts that I will get rid of.  I’m sure one will outweigh the other.  Which one will win though, is  the million dollar question.

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